It was New Years’ Eve, and we were in the kitchen before breakfast. “Who are those guys?” I asked him, pointing to the photo magnets on the fridge. The first one was a frame you put actual pictures in, and it currently had one of the three of us at Chuck E. Cheese from last year.
“Daddy!”
“Who else?”
“Aiden and Mommy!” he replied.
“And who are those tough looking guys next to them?” The next was a photo magnet of BB and his favorite cousin, who was just a couple weeks older than him. I had made them for RB’s parents and grandparents for Christmas and thought BB would enjoy seeing his cousin on the fridge, too (thank God for coupon codes).
“Aiden and Vinny!” he laughed.
“And then, who’re those guys?” I said pointing to the next magnet on the fridge. It was a picture of my parents clinking giant beer steins on one of their adventures. I think it was taken around 2015, after my Dad had been experiencing unusual symptoms his doctors couldn’t piece together; you could tell his face had begun to lose weight.
“Papa and Mimi!” BB shouted excitedly. He paused and scrunched his face as contemplation set it. “But Papa isn’t here anymore, he lives far, far away. But that’s okay,” he added instinctively. It was a phrase I had somehow drilled into his head, and he often stated it despite whatever situation arose.
I shrugged. “It is what it is.”
He glanced at me with a hint of sadness as our eyes locked. “But I miss him,” he murmured.
“I know baby, so do I,” I replied, pivoting towards the sink to blink away tears. I turned on the faucet and tried to focus as water filled my mug, anxious to become that morning’s first cup of coffee.
“Papa lives with Aunt Kath’s Judy,” he continued, still sitting in front of the fridge.
“He lives with Aunt Judy, not Miss Judy,” I corrected him, grateful for a temporary reprieve. My Aunt Judy, one of my Mom’s favorite sisters, passed away a couple months before my father. My Mom skipped the funeral to care for my Dad, but we had convinced her to briefly attend the breakfast afterwards. I still remember the tightness in my chest as family whispered to us with anxious glances, “Where’s your Mom?” during the funeral. She didn’t answer any texts or phone calls; we thought something had happened to my Dad again. “Miss Judy is just fine.”
When my Mom and I looked at burial plots after Dad’s death, my mother decided one that was only a few spots away from Aunt Judy, in an area slowly being developed. There was a pond with a birdhouse maybe thirty feet away, under the watchful gaze of Pope Benedict III, whom my Mother said that Dad had been a fan of. The woman who sold us the plot eagerly showed off plans of future development, which included a bench to his left, blocking the sight of Aunt Judy’s headstone across from him, which my Mom laughed about, and a flower garden behind him.
My Mom purchased it without a second thought. Dad wouldn’t have many neighbors crowding him. She also liked the idea of convenience for anyone visiting to be able to pay their respects to several members of our family, including her parents, who were buried on a hill maybe a hundred yards away. Because of that BB began thinking that my Dad, Aunt Judy and his GG (Great Grandma) all live and pal around together in Heaven. We haven’t gotten into many of the semantics of the afterlife yet, Christian beliefs or anything too heavy since he’s still only three; he knows that they’re dead and not coming back, but believes they’re able to fly and Heaven has a similar climate to Florida. Good enough.
About four months after this initial conversation, I was driving BB to school during a light rain storm one morning. He had been bummed out due to the frequency of this typical Spring weather, since it left him and his friends unable to utilize the playground at school; he was probably getting sick of me reminding him that “April showers bring May flowers,” too. Suddenly, as the raindrops appeared on the car’s windshield he excitedly burst out, “It’s raining because Papa, GG and Aunt Judy are jumping on the clouds up in the sky!” He started laughing from the backseat, and I couldn’t help but smile at the way that BB is keeping their memories alive.